BREAKING NEWS: Boaz is Officially Off the Market!

After an interesting telephone conversation with my sister, we jointly discovered a phenomenon plaguing Christian woman. This epidemic which, I’ll dub “Boaz Obsession”, for naming purposes, is one that I have noticed hinders rather than helps women “locate” mates. Now, for those already scratching their heads, I suggest you head on over to your Bible and read the book of Ruth. It is here that you will find the peculiar love story that so many women long to reenact in their own lives. There have been, however, a vast number of misinterpretations of this romantic account that have left women striving for a man who was officially off the market by the close of the story.

What I gather from most conversations among Christian women is that they are itching to get married. I, myself, was once one of these very women who strived to capture the attention of “My Boaz”, while pretending to glean in a field near his. However, I came to the startling reality that I was doing everything that Ruth did not do to garner the attention of Boaz. First of all, Ruth was not trying to catch a man in the field, per say, when she went out to glean behind the other workers. Nope. Ruth was simply, trying to help the poor household of her mother-in-law Naomi. They were both coping with huge tragedies, and they needed food and money. Ruth saw it as her duty to help out; period.

However comma but, what many Christian women do is dress up, spray on smell good, and then travel out into the field with the intention of nabbing Boaz’s attention. Now don’t get me wrong a pulled together woman who smells good will get attention; and not only from Boaz but, from all the other field hands as well! What these women fail to realize is that their attempts read desperate in the eyes of a discerning potential mate. No man, especially Christian men, wants to feel like he is being forced or trapped into courting a woman. Men like to feel like the whole idea of dating and courting was their own idea. (SN: That’s men for ya! lol) But, the moment men sense that women are coming on too strong they retreat, or try to see what they can get, and then retreat. Now, the latter doesn’t apply to Christian men (wink) because they know better than to take advantage of people!

The second observation I made among searching Ruth’s is that their entire lifestyle becomes centered around preparing themselves for a man. Their career choice, education, style, conversation; EVERYTHING that they eat, breathe, and sleep is with the hopes that Boaz will find them appealing. It’s quite repulsive (yes I said it!), if you ask me. I have watched many a woman lose herself and God’s mission for her life, in order to score the affection of Joe Smoe because he thought she was cute. Don’t get me wrong, from personal experience, I understand the allure of receiving attention from the opposite sex. Every woman wants to know that her efforts are not going unnoticed. But, when your “man catching” efforts shape your livelihood—Houston we have a problem!

So, let’s set the record straight today! Number One: Boaz is off the market, He was Ruth’s man. So stop saying that you are waiting on Boaz! Number Two: Take your longing for a mate to the throne and not to the streets ladies. Desperation, regardless of how pretty her dress, is never a good look! Number Three: Get to work ladies! Ruth came in contact with Boaz because she was concentrating on the mission set before her; she needed to eat! Therefore, whatever tasks, duties, or goals God has placed before you, do them. And once you get busy about your Father’s business, He won’t withhold from you the desires of your heart.

I pray that this helps someone refocus her energies and pursue the things that really matter. Because at the end of the day, when you meet your Maker He won’t ask, “So what did you and Boaz do for the Kingdom?” No, God will want to know what your efforts for His Kingdom were. And you’ll want to have a better answer then, “Well, I got dressed up real nice so my Boaz could find me—”

Get a life ladies—literally!

I have nothing but love for ya!

Nikki D